How do we figure out if we're happy?
Many ancient philosophies, including Kabbalah and Zen, teach a simple but not easily achieved principle that the only place happiness exists is within ourselves. Regardless of whether we are in a relationship or not, wealthy or not, tall, short, have kids or not, going places or not — if we only need ourselves to feel happy, we’re all set!
This isn’t to say we don’t like to have other people contribute to our overall happiness but rather, not to look to other people to bring us happiness. Because logically, if they can bring it, they can take it away, which isn’t something we should be aiming for.
So how do we know if we’re our own source of happiness?
Do you wake up happy? I’m not talking about the “happy to be alive” mantra — just happy. Knowing that whatever curve balls you may encounter during the day, they have nothing to do with your inner happiness.
Do you seek someone to blame for the aforementioned curve balls, be that yourself or someone else?
Do you dwell on the inadequacies of the world around you?
Can other people knock you off balance? Not for a brief moment, but for an extended period of time?
Do you feel the need to prove yourself to yourself or others? Do you go over an argument after it ended and sulk?
Do you exude calmness or defensiveness?
Do you know your driving force? Is it based on your ego or your Karmic goal?
Do you fall asleep happy?
I’m sure there are lots more clues we can come up with to figure out if we’re happy on our own, but you can start with these basic ones.
The million dollar question however remains, how do we become that source of happiness for ourselves and are we even capable of doing so?
The answer to the first part of the question presumes that we want to become the source of our own happiness. We can transform ourselves to abandon fear and doubt, and everything else will follow. Once we’ve eradicated our fear, we’ll realize that happiness has always lived inside us, we just didn’t know how to bring it up to the surface.
The answer to the second part of the questions is easy — yes, we are.
Being happy not only makes us feel better physically and emotionally, but it frees up a LOT of time to do all the things we always wanted to do. Oh, and an added benefit — we’ll feel happy doing it! 😄
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