One of the most burning questions on people’s minds is, “Why am I here and what is my purpose?”
There are numerous answers to this question, but one of the most obvious ones often remains overlooked. We are here to be happy!
No one ever wishes to be miserable, right? So why then do we see so many people (including that face in the mirror) disappointed, worried, sick, and by extension, fearing for these same things happening to their loved ones?
The answer lies in the discrepancy between what we really are and how we perceive ourselves.
Since there’s no “manual” issued to every one of us, we form our opinions and our reaction system based on what we see around us. Very few people are able to discern between what is real and what isn’t.
There are three main motivational forces affecting our lives:
We all had some disappointing experiences in our lives, right? When we wanted something so badly that we couldn’t imagine ourselves without it? Then something went wrong and we ended up not getting the thing we wanted. Our expected reaction is disappointment, after which comes a memory, telling us that the same thing will most likely happen in the future.
In other words, we set ourselves up for disappointment, which, last time I checked, wasn’t a required component in the happiness recipe.
But how do we “forget” about what happened? How do we look at the new situation with a fresh eye? Let’s put it in a form of an exercise, but first, remind yourself that you are on this Earth to be happy!
· Recall the latest disappointing event in your life.
· Try to find positive aspects in your not getting what you wanted (It’s hard, but remember, you’re trying to be happy no matter what!).
· Note the first three major shifts in your reaction to this situation, once you’ve found the way to turn your disappointment into motivation.
· Think about how you can apply this same technique to other disappointing events in your life.
Go ahead, give it a try. Then come back and let us know how it went. Even if it didn’t work because you couldn’t focus or stop your mind from racing or you couldn’t find the time. Leave it in the comments and try it again tomorrow. This process takes time. Be patient with yourself.